I am flowing with abundant love, ready to fill another soul, who is also looking for a home for all the love he has to share. I am overflowing with authenticity , compassion and sensuality and looking for the man who is not intimidated by all I have to give, but is up for the challenge of trying to give as much of himself back to me. I am ready to touch a man in all the right places, not just in the bedroom, but in his heart and soul along with the everyday moments of his life, and looking for a man who would find it agony not to touch me in the same way.
I believe gratitude for each other is the most romantic thing around and long for someone who will be able to express it, not just with their words but how they care for me. They are Someone who finds it a joy to open doors, help with coats, drive, make plans, not because I am not able to do those things myself, but because that is who he is. Because of who I am, I will do a million little thoughtful things for you, most of which, you’ve not had anyone else ever do for you before.
You are also someone who wants to take me in your arms every time we meet, on days that are celebratory and on days that suck, on all days that end in Y. You also know that good kissing is for everyday and not just the gateway to orgasms.
I’m not looking for someone with a standup comedy routine who must keep me laughing all the fucking time, but I am looking for someone who makes me light up...with laughter, with a knowing glance across the room, with our dirty minds, with our own inside jokes no one else would get, with our unique quirks.
I am looking for someone who understands that intimacy is not just about skills in the bedroom, but it’s the sharing of words that express the feelings in your heart, the wounds in your past, the things you long to learn and the deep parts you save just for your person. He also knows that sometimes sex is long and slow and full of whispered “I love you’s”, sometimes it’s just laying naked together kissing and talking, sometimes it’s giving to each other because words won’t do and sometimes, it’s fucking in the kitchen while we are cooking dinner because we just can’t wait. No matter the how, it’s always done with presence and intention.
I am looking for someone who is overwhelmed with kindness to ALL types of people (and animals.) Someone who is friendly to people of all races, sexualities and backgrounds and you’re willing to use your voice to stand up for social injustice. Because you genuinely care about other humans, you’ll care enough about my teens to be their friend, to laugh with them, to show up for their things sometimes and to know the basics of what’s happening in their lives, even though they don’t need a father. If you have children, I promise to do the same for them.
I will proudly introduce you to the people in my life and gladly embrace the people you value in yours. I will become their friend and stand with you in the concerns you have about them and how our current world affects them.
Finally I am not just looking for someone who gets me, but someone who will say “I got you!” This spills over into not just showing up on days I need you by my side, but also someone who cheers me on in my non traditional career, someone who challenges me to see things differently or confront me kindly on my shit, who understands my clean/keto way of eating even if you don’t do the same, someone who knows there are times in a relationship where we have to drop everything and be 100% present for that other person, because there is no other place we would rather be in those moments.
Most importantly, I am looking for someone who doesn’t want to half-ass his way through loving others...through loving me. If this resonates with you and causes a stirring in your soul, please share some of your thoughts with me...until then, d.